Beyond the Blues

From the teenager's perspective, any day can have the greatest highs and the greatest lows, depending on the circumstances and relationships. Really, break-ups are filled with all kinds of mixed emotions. Our self-esteem as well as our hearts is involved. Remember that every teens heart is fragile and we will love another. Actually before I attained this realizations I engaged to some helpful ways like praying, listening to someone, balancing and loving again.

Praying should always be the first step in terms of everything. God is on our side and cares deeply on those who are hurting. He's Listening and ready to give us wisdom to respond in our situation. I personally encouraging everyone to pray alone about the break-up and what's going to be in the future. This is the time to release all your aches wrapping your heart.

Secondly listening to someone who also suffered and survived in this kind of undertakings is an effective way. The approachable we are, the wider the door will be open for future conversation. It's really good to feel that there's someone speaking to you words of encouragement like our parents and friends. At the same time this is also the moment to voice out our hurt feeling, and it's really relaxing that there's someone also listening to you. In addition to this be realistic in our feelings.

Balancing our thoughts,attitudes and words toward the other person leads us to little by little forgiveness. Make sure though they hurt us, don't utter not so good words to them instead remain caring for them.(Who knows you might even still together down the road!). But really the thing is, friendship is still there even though it takes times to build it
again. Balance our attitude by not acting like a fool, just go on with the flow. Always be reminded that life must go on.

Lastly is loving again. It doesn't mean to fall again to other person that quick. There are lots of person and things to be loved. Though we've searched love at the wrong place the last time, time never stop counting and there are lots of time especially the perfect time coming. Just love the persons and career you have right now.

Fixing a break-up really don't happen overnight. It's like a wound that could be heal in time through the use of medicine. Use whatever opportunities we have to simply talk about life. Make sure our self-esteem stays in tact. Always tell ourselves that we have great qualities and we are special in ways that go far beyond a broken relationship.